When we think and say that we “must” or “should” do something, it creates resistance in us. Those words indicate something negative – “I should lose weight”, “I must do more exercising”…

The words “lose”, “stop” and “reduce” also have negative connotations, whereas “gain”, “start”, “increase” are all positive words. This is part of why it’s usually so much easier to gain weight than to lose it! Subconsciously we really resist losing anything – even if it’s excess weight…

Think about what you say to yourself – is it a positive or a negative statement? Do you tell yourself that you need to lose weight, or that you would like to get fit? Do you say that you should de-clutter the house, or that you would like to make your home into a lovely haven? Do you say that you must stop procrastinating or that you want to increase your discipline? Do you want to get rid of a problem or gain clarity?

Take a moment and feel how much resistance you get when you think about having to run errands, compared to doing some shopping… Or having to do some work in the garden, compared to spending time in nature…

All we do and say either makes us stronger or weaker. This is also what we use when we do muscle testing. “YES” makes us stronger, while “NO” makes us weaker. Can you feel in your gut when you get weak or strong?

We have often been taught as children to not listen to our gut feelings, because we lived in a family that wouldn’t acknowledge our feelings. People in our environment were lying about their feelings, or completely hiding them, so we figured that it must be wrong to feel. We might even have been told that it was wrong to be sensitive.

But it’s never wrong to feel. What’s causing us problems is the fear of feeling. If you’ve had enough of talking yourself down or stuffing down your feelings, let’s have a chat and a cup of tea on Zoom – send me an email to info@sarawaters.se to book ❤

And let me know in the comments how you feel about this blog post!

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